Why won’t you say what you need to say?

I hear this all the time:
“I tried to say it… but it didn’t come out right.”

Here’s what usually happened:
You knew exactly what you wanted to say.
But you edited yourself.

You softened it, danced around it, or used vague language in hopes of not rocking the boat.
You didn’t want to seem too much, too direct, too needy.
So you made it safe.
But in the process, you made it confusing.

And then the other person didn’t get it.
Not because they’re insensitive.
But because they’re not a mind reader.

Clarity requires courage.
And before we say the truth, we have to get clear on what it even is.

That starts with checking in:
Is this a capacity issue, a clarity issue, or an emotional trigger?
What do I really need right now?
What’s the unspoken request behind the reaction?

Once you name it, the second step is saying it clean.
Not with blame. Not in riddle form. Just the truth.

This goes for everyone—but especially for Visionaries and Integrators.
A Visionary who isn’t clear sounds like chaos.
An Integrator who isn’t clear feels like control.

When both sides are direct and specific, the whole team breathes easier.
Deadlines move faster. Expectations align. Fewer things get dropped.

If you want to be understood, stop making people guess.
Say what you need to say—before it leaks out sideways.

You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to be honest.
The cost of clarity is discomfort. The cost of avoiding it is dysfunction.

Your move.

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Rachel